Think about it....... You most likely wouldn't want to be friends with someone who walks with her hair straight down her face, wears inappropriate clothes, never talks to anyone or even makes eye contact, walks trying to avoid attention, or even someone who is mean to everyone or a bully! I'm sure most of you would not be attracted to meet someone like that. Not that there is ANYTHING wrong with being shy!! Maybe just try to pull the hair back from your face so people can see who you really are, and not walking to not be seen would help make yourself ten times more attractive to making new friends! You need to learn to be confident in yourself then others will see you in that way too! DO NOT change yourself one bit to make friends!! Don't be someone you're not... Fake shows! Be who YOU are and trust me, people will like that!
2. Be Friendly
You can't make friends by not speaking to them! In order to have a friend, you need to make a friend. And by making a friend.... you need to talk..... be a little friendly. Keep a fresh, happy smile on your face. Show your personality. Talk to people! Most friendships don't just happen automatically with no speaking involved! Go out of your comfort zone and talk to someone. Just remember, be yourself. No one will like someone who fakes about themselves. I am sure you wouldn't have too much fun faking yourself either.
3. Be Careful Who You're Friends With
Don't be friends with someone mean, rude, or disrespectful. Don't be friends with someone you know you'll be pushed around by. Yet don't go for someone who's the opposite of yourself. Find someone nice, fun sweet, and friendly! Someone you can learn off of. Someone who wants to be friends with you too. You might not realize they want to be your friend till you try. Remember to be very careful with who you decide to be friends with. You never know what kind of situation you can find yourself in by hanging around someone. If a friend is starting to deceive you, get you into trouble, or make you do something bad, it's best to just back away and pray about where God wants you to be.
4. Be a Good Friend
If a friend is telling you "No" to doing something or having certain actions, it's best that you respect that. If your friend has a different religion then you, respect that. If a friend has a different curfew then you, respect that. Don't ask anyone to change who they are or even not except them for who they are. Do to others, what you would want done for you. Be a good person and don't judge. If your friend looks up to you and comes to you with a problem, give them the best advice you can think of and don't joke around about it. Don't gossip about your friends or deceive them. Be the kind of friend that you want.
5. Don't be discouraged
Maybe this advice hasn't been working for you. Don't think less of yourself because of it. Kids are cruel these days so just be proud of yourself because you aren't one of those lost, cruel, mean kids! You're so much more then that that many kids you don't know about are jealous of it. Many people bully, don't except, and are mean to you, and other kids because they are jealous. Joke's on them! They are loosing so much because of their jealousy and judgment! Even though I don't know you, I am sure YOU are an amazing girl, so show the real you, love others, and pray to God about making friends, and before you know it, you'll have too many friends to give attention too! If you need some more advice or are struggling with something, ask me about it. You can find information about contacting me below in the "Read More" section of this post!
Dealing with friends you already have. This can be a very tuff subject concerning how stubborn some people can be. If you are dealing with a friend that's not willing to let you be anyone's friend but themselves, maybe it's time to step away from that friend. If you have a friend who is very strange about needing to be with you, maybe you should back away from that friend. You can do that by not texting that friend often. Maybe even not sitting next to them in class or making them realize that you have other friends too. If you have a friend who is becoming rude or mean to you, maybe even bulling, it's time to talk to your parents about it, parental guider, teacher, mentor, youth Pastor, etc. Maybe you have a friend or a best friend who is moving away. Think about why God has taken that friend away from you. Have you been acting different around that friend then with your family? Does this friend whose moving away temp you? Or get you into trouble? Is this a friendship that honors god? These are all great questions to ask yourself wether you have a friend that just moved away, or just to ask yourself about every relationship you have with a friend. This is a great way to keep yourself out of trouble with a friend.
Hope you've all enjoyed! Remember that friends aren't and shouldn't, be, or mean everything. I'll try to post as much as a can over Thanksgiving break this week and next week. If you have any questions, concerns, or need more advice about this post or any other topic, contact me on my second Instagram instagram.com/wedding_dress_bliss . I'll have information on that account about my new account for my blog I am creating. So stay tuned for my blog's Instagram! If you'll just comment on my Instagram (link above), including that you need advice and are a blog viewer, I'll be sure to get back to you ASAP!
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~Izzy
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